This is the story of many of our lives. You’re single and you desperately want a boyfriend/girlfriend. Everybody on the sidewalk seems to be holding hands with someone else, and everybody is always leaving the party arm in arm with someone else. Then you get that boyfriend/girlfriend you wanted, and you’re happy at first, but things start to change. Now you go to the party and it seems like there are so many hot singles around. You long for the freedom to hookup, you resent your partner for keeping you off the market.
These feelings are summed up by the classic cliche “The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.” Wanting what you can’t have is a universal emotion. It’s this evil little feeling that sneaks up on you and makes you feel like your life is somehow inadequate in comparison to others. It has a knack for creeping up on you just when you thought you were at your happiest, just when you thought you had everything you wanted. All it takes is a subliminal reminder from that super sexy single person across the room.
If you let it, this feeling of always comparing what you’ve got to what others appear to have, will drag you down. Because it is just that, a feeling created by how things appear to be, not how they actually are. When you’re single and lonely and you see a really attractive couple in the throws of love, you truthfully don’t know their story. Things are often just illusion, our brains like to transfer our fantasies onto other complete strangers. So next time you’re lusting after a situation that’s not your own, remind yourself that what you see is just the surface, and that what you have is most likely better anyways.