Are you a nag?Posted by: Emily | Posted on: July 18, 2012
Nags are the absolute worst. It’s true. Nobody likes a nag, and nothing will create tension in your relationship more than nagging each other. But anybody that has been in a relationship knows that it can be hard not to start nagging. When you get close to somebody you notice all the things that you like and dislike about them. Little habits can start to get on your nerves, making you want to push them to stop, hence nagging. But nagging actually gets nothing done, in fact, it probably makes your partner want to do their annoying little things more just to piss you off.
Remember when your parents nagged you to clean your room or do your chores? It was the worst. It made you resent them, and it usually made you angry enough to start a fight. The same goes for your relationship. If you and your partner turn into nags, you’re virtually parenting each other, which is totally not a good habit. So what do you do if your partner continually does something that bugs you? You want to let them know and help them change, but you don’t want them to hate you for it.
It’s all about constructive criticism. Say something nice, followed by a way that they can improve. For example “Hey babe I love it when we watch movies together, but would you mind putting the DVD’s back in the case after?” Something like that will probably get a better reaction than saying “Can you try to put the DVD’s away after we watch them?” in a bitchy tone. Tone of voice and saying something nice are two keys to getting your message across, so next time you feel the urge to nag, try switching up your style for better results.