Unless you’ve been living in a cave for the past couple days, it’s probable that you’ve heard the news about actress Gwyneth Paltrow and Coldplay frontman Chris Martin officially separating and seeking divorce.
The couple, who have been together for over 10 years and have two kids, Moses 7, and Apple, 9, announced their separation via Gwyneth’s site “goop” and instead of calling it an actual separation, they decided to go with “conscious uncoupling”.
Just in case you’re wondering, “What the fuck does conscious uncoupling mean?” we’ve decided to guide you through the basics and try make sense of the pretentious letter on goop which actually sheds light on plenty relationship/marriage issues faced by common folk.
According to the letter, the human life cycle has increased dramatically over the past couple hundred years, and as a result, the expression “Until death do us part” is no longer valid. When the aforementioned phrase became popular, it was during the rise of the industrial revolution when marriage and the concept of the nuclear family rose to prominence. The average life expectancy during this period was 55, and that’s why men and women who typically decided to settle down in there twenties spent the rest of their lives together. However, thanks to advances in modern medicine, the average life expectancy has risen to an exponential age of 80 years, therefore, according to the letter, we live numerous lives in one, and human aren’t “built” to be with one person for all of eternity.
Of course, some couples do it, but these types are few and far between. The reality is that spending 50 years with one person is unrealistic, and while divorce is a term riddled with negative energy, the idea of conscious uncoupling simply means that two people have mutually agreed to end their marriage because they cannot change together, and wish to explore something alternative.